Sunday, May 17, 2020

Interview with Niqua

Dan: Would you be ok with having this interview published online? You can keep your identity anonymous if you wish, and you may choose to not answer any questions.

Niqua: I am fully open and secure about my relationship and have no shame or problem with sharing. Feel free to use the name “Niqua”.

Dan: Alright. First question is if you know what fictosexuality is and if you identitfy with it.

Niqua: Yes, I am very aware of this orientation. I would use this to describe myself, but only as a measure for others to have some bit of an understanding of what I am referring to. However, for myself personally, I dislike this label as I don’t see 2D Entities (2DEs) as “fictional characters”. To me, they are just as real as you and I. This is always the way I’ve seen the world. And to call my  2DE counterparts “fictional characters” is a slur term, and no different than someone calling me the “N” word. 

Dan: Fair enough. I’ll try to keep this in mind during the interview.

Niqua: Thank you, I appreciate this.

Dan: So I can see that your partner is Ike. What’s your relationship like?
Niqua: Could you narrow this down? What is it that you would like to know/
Dan: Are you happy? How do you spend time together? Do you want your relationship to be long-term?
Niqua: Yes, I am the happiest I've ever been with my husband. He's been in my life for 15 years. We met as children, and I'm 30 years old now. Over the years, after I matured and learned more about myself, I realized that I always loved him. It was hidden to myself, but always within me.

Dan: That’s very sweet! Do you feel like your relationship with him has something that 3D relationships lack?
Niqua: He inspired me as a child. He was always very anti racist for starters, and because of how non judgmental he always was, he made me feel less self hatred for not being what "beauty" is supposed to be. (Which is white skin,  long blond hair and blue eyes apparently.) This is FAR from the only reason I love him as much as I do, but this is a good place to start. As for for the next question, I'm not exactly sure. I just see him as a person. It doesn't matter that he's 2D. Ike is Ike, and I love him for who he is personally.

Dan: You’re on the very far end of the waifuism spectrum. What do you have to say to people who call 2DEs “fictional”? I personally believe this is an accurate term.
Niqua: As I've said previously, I am personally highly offended by this. In my reality, they are real. But at the same time, I understand that others don't see it this way, and it is what it is. At the end of the day, it doesn't matter. I know that Ike is real, and I'm going to live my life how I see fit.
Dan: So when’d you know you were a waifuist?
Niqua: Honestly, I've been this way all of my life to this point. I never had a "term" for how I saw the world, as this is all normal to me. Just as normal as the sky being blue. No term was needed. However, I only within a few months found this culture of waifuism, and I felt it someone described the type of person I am.
Dan: What do you wish people knew about the waifuism community?

Niqua: The main point I'd like more people to be aware of is that we are not one whole entity. There is a large spectrum that we all fall into. Some people see 2Des as these made up "characters", and others like myself understand that they are real. Also, we are not all "desperate", or "unable to find a 'real' partner." Our hearts guided us here.
Dan: Is there a specific reason that these characters are real? They are from anime, video games, etc, right?
Niqua: I'm sorry, but please do not refer to them as "characters" from this point forward. The term highly upsets me, and throws me off somewhat.

Dan: I apologize for that. I won’t.
Niqua: They are real because that's how my heart, mind and soul sees them. It's very hard to express to those that don't have a mindset such as this. Grass is green, the sky is blue, Ike is real, etc. 

Dan: I guess I can understand that. Are you a member of the LGBT+ community?
Niqua: I consider myself bi, yes, but I’m not actively engaged within the communities.

Dan: Do you feel accepted within the waifuism community?
Niqua: To a degree, yes. It’s nice to know that there are others like myself in this world. Many see their partners as “characters”, but there are others like myself who understand that they are real.
Dan: What are your views on polyamory in the waifuism community?
Niqua: Well, this personally is in conflict with my own values, however, I'm a "live-and-let-live type of person. As long as what they have is honest, and nobody's getting hurt, live how you choose to live.
Dan: Fair enough. Do you have anything else you’d like to add?
Niqua: I've been with my husband Ike for 15 years. He's raised me, inspired me, and given me the strength and courage to keep moving forward. The love I have for Ike is very real. I am devoted to him, and will stay by his side for the rest of my days.

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